Weekly photo challenge: Surprise – meat across the street in Little Armenia


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Two dudes with a dead lamb, casually draped over the shoulder of the hat guy – in LIttle Armenia. (Image by Liz Cameron)

Well, for this week’s WordPress photo challenge, the theme is surprise.  Now, dear reader, I’ve been pretty stumped on this one – and couldn’t come up with anything but the most mundane – you know – the surprise of dewdrops on a cobweb in early winter and some such.  It felt trite, and cliché, and as I have been enjoying joining in with his tribe of photo-obsessed WordPress bloggers, I wanted to continue my new tradition.  You can click for my entries on “reflection” and “delicate,” respectively.

Now, as I try to keep all of my posts related to the topic of this blog, a roadtrip through one Turkish-American cross-cultural marriage – it took me a while to figure out which photo I would like to share.

Finally, early this morning, it hit me.

20121223-174822.jpgEarly this fall, I was shopping for some of our favorite Turkish sour cherry jam, olives, fresh savory pastries and white cheese at the local Armenian market (where the owners speak Turkish – and had a summer place down the street from M.’s family, as it turns out).  As I sat at the stoplight, car full of delicious scents, I had a surprise – two big “American looking” dudes, were walking in front of my car with a dead lamb casually thrown across their shoulder.  While this is a common sight in Turkey (well, in more rural parts of Anatolia from my experience), it is NOT a common sight here.  We are, in this century, and perhaps in my social class, way too disconnected from where our Christmas lamb roast ACTUALLY originates.

So, after catching my surprised breath, I got out my iPhone camera just in time to catch them crossing the road. Then, I just reminded myself that I was in Boston’s “Little Armenia” and drove on home as the puppets all looked on as if *nothing* shocking had happened.  They didn’t even deign to comment.

Karagöz rising: Cake rising and falling


The lemon curd buttercream filled but not yet frosted chocolate buttermilk cake - like the holiday - had such promise, but I over-thought it, as usual!

After a successful and 99% conflict-free Christmas, I was feeling pretty good about life and upset that we had had such a difficult time before Christmas. Now Karagöz yells “Why, Stella, why?”

Every year there is the gearing up, the getting through and the going downhill to the goose-down bed of comfort afterwards.

In retrospect, I was likely still getting over the gearing up and getting through as I left my childhood home, flickering flakes of hardly-there snow melting on my scalp as I walked to the car.

In an attempt to be positive, I said “well, that went pretty well – next year we shouldn’t get all worked up before Christmas – now we have a good model for Christmas!”

After his long Christmas nap, Karagoz was ready to rock once more - he looked something like this as we left my parents' house and headed for the car...

M.’s face told me that all hell was about to break loose before I realized that Karagöz was dancing a jig on the hood of the car – screeching at the top of his lungs and clapping his hands which sounded strangely like gongs with a sound that reverberated through me.

All the puppets were shivering in the New England cold, and huddled deep in my scarf, jacket and purse.

 

I heard some of them sigh, giving up on me, saying “will she ever learn?  She’s whipping him up like the meringue frosting that got overbeaten and couldnt be used for Christmas Eve dinner.”

Fannie Farmer's boiled meringue frosting - made it 100 times, but it stalled on Christmas Eve, much like our communication

“Why must you always tell me what I do wrong!” M. shot back at me. “We are not one minute out of this house, and you are telling me what I did wrong and focusing on the negative.”

Of course, I did not see it in the moment, I think my fairy godmother was so tired from wanding us through the holiday that she had collapsed from fatigue. Tense and tired and remembering the total mess in the kitchen at home from my Christmas eve baking disaster, I massaged at my aching shoulders while denying being negative. “I was trying to be positive! I said “we” not “you!” And I meant it! I mean -WE have a good model – WE don’t need to get upset before Christmas next year – what is WRONG with that? Why aren’t you talking to me? Are you mad? What did I do wrong….” The more Karagöz danced on the hood, the more I spoke and the more tightly-wound my voice, heart and soul became.

Disaster cake for Christmas Eve dinner - theme was globalized tastes, an Aegean-flavored Christmas, This was chocolate buttermilk cake with lemon curd buttercream filling and meringue frosting...never got to the latter!

M., well, he just became quieter and quieter. I felt the layer cake of our relationship slipping off of itself much as my Christmas Eve dessert had done – see the photos through this post. Slipping, sliding, melting and cracking into a lovely and delicious but un-aesthetically-pleasing mess to the eye.

We slept back to back that night, ignoring one another. The dog didn’t even come close, sleeping at our feet to stay out of the melee.

All night Karagöz ran around the house – marching and lecturing on the era of “Karagöz rising.” Sort of like the Age of Aquarius. It wasn’t until dawn, when Hacivad Bey could not take it anymore, that Karagöz rose no more. Everyone has their limits….the best he could do was a partial quote from Rumi, leaving me for the night with this “Love so needs to love that it will endure almost anything, even abuse,
just to flicker for a moment.”

While love didn’t flicker very strongly for even a moment that night, it wound its way back into our hearts over tea the next morning after the entire puppet troupe re-created my bad behavior and dissected it for all to inspect and second-guess that morning.

As Asuman Sübay says about “the mission of the Karagöz play,” it “is to rebel against political and social pressure: It uses the satire as its weapon, tells the corrupt lives of men and the unjustice of the authority with thoughtful jokes, fights against the evil and makes people see what is right.”

Long live the Karagöz puppets – if this is what Karagöz rising means – then by all means, buyrun (please come in, sit down, take some).  Maybe I’ll even try baking again…

Surviving and thriving: Christmas 2011 with the Karagöz puppet troupe


A Greek image of Saint Nicholas as Karagoz – or vice versa from this link - by David John Berlin Santa Kariagozi

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“The Athenian”
December 1985

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© David John 1984

When we last left you, dear reader, we were barely squeaking by through the tension-filled days before Christmas.  Karagöz was up to no good, stomping around being grumpy and surly.  I was channeling Zenne, the little puppet who is as nervous and anxious as a shivery bowl of crabapple jelly.

In the end, we “sucked it up” and it was a lovely Christmas Eve and Christmas day, more or less.  Mostly more.   Here is a bit about how all of the various members of the Karagöz puppet troupe addressed their Christmas experience.

Let us begin with Tiryaki, the opium addict.  Not surprisingly, he ambled his way, in a wobbling fashion, into my parents’ home, and after downing a delicious fresh eggnog with rum and shaved nutmeg (supplied by Mercan, the Arabian spice trader you met last week), found a wonderful spot near the fireplace to smoke his opium and nod out for the rest of the ride.

Tsk-tsking as she watched Tiryaki inebriate himself and head for the (proverbial) hills, Kenne, the lady in search of maintained honor was going at her manners lecture at full tilt.  Elbows off the table, mouth closed when chewing, underpants not showing when shirt becomes untucked while making a fire.  During a recent visit to my parents, it wasn’t me who had a heart attack, but it sure felt like it, it was Kenne.  Her heart attack was about M.’s typically brusque, to put it kindly, wording in response to my mother’s suggestion that he have a beer.   His response was “oh – anything but that Sam Adams beer that I hate.”  Of course, this was all that was in the house, and I felt the smarting red of a blushing bout.  As things were not always easy with M. and my family, little things like this set me off. In a show of graceful good spirits, my mother had gone out and purchased three different types of beer – and when she mentioned this, Kenne jumped into my body, moving in contorted facial expressions and arm movements to suggest to M. that he go and get a beer – for good will if nothing else.  To no avail.  Kenne was upset that he did not get a beer, but really, it is not the end of the world.  Sometimes it takes me – oops – I mean Kenne – a little bit of time to chill the h out a bit.  This time, it took my parents to set her straight, telling me to let things go a little bit more and to let the past go.  If only, I thought, if only M. could let the past go – his favorite book is Recherche du temps perdu….so a losing battle.

Easier said than done, Zenne, well, that nervous little lady, she whittled her nails down to the quick over the 1.5 days at home, worrying that M. might insult the family, or that they might trigger him somehow.  She couldn’t enjoy herself much at all, and took regular naps after exhausting herself with anxiety.  This lady, I mean really, she needs to GET A LIFE.

Meanwhile, Safiye Rakkase ignored all of this.  She made her home on top of the stereo, practicing her dance moves to the rhythm of the 5-CD repeating machine by the twinkly Christmas tree.  She donned her bellydancing gear and danced the night, and day, and night away…

Bebe Ruhi, who loves to ask incessant questions, took up with my father, who has a tradition from our childhood which involves asking questions about wrapped presents until he guesses the exact present – a true feat – much to the chagrin of my mother.  It can get old, but he never tires of it, and Bebe Ruhi was glad to make his acquaintance.

Yehuda Rebbe and Hacivad Bey, well, they climbed up to the very top of the Christmas tree, by the star there, and recited religious and spiritual poems for 1.5 days straight, without stopping, in some sort of marathon.  When I asked them why they were doing this, they told me that this was a marathon for world peace (to which Karagöz said “you mean WHIRLED PEAS?” but I ignored him) – and looking at me with a knowing glow, Hacivad Bey said “think globally, act locally, m’lady, aim for world peace in your head, and with your husband.”

Esma the little hippie puppet was stationed, in lotus position, just a few branches below the sage elders, meditating.  When she meditates for long periods of time, tiny fragrant jasmine and rose petals begin to flow out of her ears and across the room – they melt into small breezes as they wend their way towards anyone who is about.  She is a magical little puppet.  I felt those breezes a couple of times.

Karagöz was nowhere to be seen for most of the time.  I think he was totally exhausted, and that takes a lot.  He was mostly snoring and drooling in his sleep, half in a potted plant, half hanging out.  Our dog sniffed at him a bunch of times, although I don’t think he can see him.

But most of all, there was Perhihan Hanım, my fairy godmother, who really knows how to work some good magic.  She brings kekikli breezes from Bozcaada to calm us down in our most difficult moments…and she did not disappoint on Christmas.  We kept noticing that enticing sunshine-warmed smell of thyme around us as we made the fire with my Dad, held his hand when he was too fatigued to open presents or join in much, sip some tea with my mother, hear all about my sister’s church service visit…and best of all…when we witnessed our young friend enjoying the fairy castle we had made by hand and installed for her – complete with a glittery pink tulle bower around it.  A child’s joy at an unexpected bit of magic, that was the most calming and unifying present of all.  Thank you, Perihan Hanım for getting us to see the best in each other and others even in our most difficult times as a couple.  We think that our friend A. is in cahoots with Perihan Hanım, as she and he repeated the same words to us – wishing us a gentle bayram, and to hold a candle for one another.  A lasting image for a young (at heart) couple still in the throes of working out their relationship vis-a-vis Christmas culture…